Confidence: we all need it, but many of us struggle to find it.
Truth be told, confidence has always been something I’ve struggled with. I’ve never won a beauty contest and I keep my tribe to a limited group of people I can trust. So, I’m definitely not winning any popularity contests. That’s not where confidence comes from though.
You have to look within to find your confidence. It doesn’t matter how gorgeous you are, you may still be lacking confidence.
Let’s dive into how we learn to love ourselves and find our confidence.
I’ve been on a journey recently and though from the outside, it appears to only be a physical journey, it has been very emotional and very much a mental adventure. Yes, I call it an adventure, because I’ve been learning to love myself.
You see, I always knew that I was good at some things. (We all have talents, right?). The problem is that I never spent enough time using my talents to find my confidence.
Over the past few months, I’ve given up a lot of things that were “bad” for me. (I mean, seriously, I even gave up donuts 😉). When you learn to cope with life in general after getting rid of a lot of bad habits, you find that loving yourself becomes easier. Instead of hiding behind food, I’ve learned to speak my mind (in a gentle way most of the time) and to stand up for myself. I’ve learned that I enjoy running. I’ve also watched my body make a transition that I never believed possible. While those are all physical things, it’s helped me emotionally too.
I started reminding myself on a daily basis that God created me to be me. He didn’t want another Sally or another Jessica. He wanted Crystal to be unique and march to the beat of her own drum. Everyday, I remind myself that I am worthy of the love He gives me. I am worthy of the love my husband, family, and friends give me. I am worthy of the compliments I receive from strangers. I am worthy. Repeat after me: I am worthy.
I am talented. I am intelligent. I am caring and I can probably make you laugh. I’m not tooting my horn here; I’m just trying to show you that I have found the things I love about myself. Confidence starts with self love. If you don’t love yourself, you probably aren’t going to find your confidence.
Today, I want you to take a few minutes and find one thing you can love about yourself. Maybe you love that your husband and kids enjoy your cooking. Maybe you are super organized or maybe, you keep a very clean home. Are you really great at your job? Do you help others feel better about themselves? Maybe you are a great listener. Whatever it is, that’s where you start. Remind yourself every day that you are great at your job or that you can make people feel welcome like no one else can. Learn to love that part of yourself. Next week, find something else you love about yourself and add it to your list. As time goes on, you will start to build your confidence and it will show. In reality, beauty really does come from within.
Random fact about me: I’m not really a donut fan, but man, I can tear up some salad lately. 😉